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Posted by on Sep 16, 2011 in Uncategorized | 36 comments


I wish.

I wish I was a writer. Then I’d have a legitimate reason to spend my days tapping or scribbling away, writing whatever takes my fancy, without a scrap of guilt.

I wish there were more hours in the day so that I could potter about on my blog, online, on Twitter or whatever, free of those nagging, niggling feelings that I should be doing something more productive with my time.
I struggle with my blog/life balance. 
Time perks up when I switch on my laptop. It grins evilly and lulls me into a false sense of security, fooling me into thinking it’s running at it’s usual speed, but then just when I’m not looking it enters hyperspeed and I’m out of time almost before I’ve begun. If real life didn’t tug at my sleeve I’d probably become one with my chair, tip-tapping away until dusk.

Hello, I’m Bod for tea, and I’m a blogoaholic.

Am I a geek? I don’t think so. I love creating things and the connections I make online. Put the two together and I’d happily live on my laptop for hours. (Until my back gives out and I realise I’ve gotta move more of this stiff ol’ body than my fingers.)

Is it the scarcity of my online life that makes it so appealing? When OH is working away from home I rub my hands with glee at the prospect of a good few hours guilt-free laptopping, but by the second evening the gloss has usually faded and I’m craving a good book and an early night (not to mention a cuddle).

Is it, in fact, just the act of writing itself? I love it. I crave it. I need it. But it can take me a while to get into full flow sometimes (all the time) so when I finally get my writing mojo down and my juices flowing it can be a tad…errr… frustrating when, as much as I love it, I’m dragged back to the reality of nappy changes and Duplo shopping for plastic bananas for the twelfth time.

So is it a writing/life balance problem rather than a blog/life balance problem I wonder? I wish. If I’m brutally honest I probably spend more time reading other people’s blogs and hanging out on Twitter, Facebook and the like than I do actually showing up at the page and emptying my soul onto paper, so I can’t claim that badge of honour.

Perhaps, in the final analysis, it’s a sort of addiction. Fuelled by my long-held desire to write and stimulated by the lovely bloggers I’ve met on this journey. Add some time limitations to fan the flames of desire and you have yourself a fully-fledged craving.

But life’s gotta be lived people and so it should be. 

And so I tackle this imbalance by making time bend for me, by getting up at stupid o’clock to get my fix before DD yawns into her day and by respecting an 8 o’clock curfew for my online life, after which all laptops and smartphones have to be switched off so that OH and I can live our real lives.

Because that is what life is really about, after all. Living. In the real world. (With the smartphone on silent, you know just in case…).

How do you manage your blog/life balance? 

Read about how other bloggers do it at the lovely Notes from Home’s

This post is also part of the fantabulous Josie’s The Writing Workshop ‘Wishes’ over at Sleep is for the Week.

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  • PosiePatchworkblog

    I love blogs, but ONLY blogs, not Twitter or FB, just focus on one social medium.  I do bits & pieces, when my husband is home i cut back, when he’s away, blogging is my adult chat time.  I normally blog midday for a break from my sewing or later at night, after homework is done, 4 children in bed & i’m not really into television.  Love Posie

  • bod for tea

    You sound like you’ve got it sorted Posie! Twitter and Facebook can be such a distraction *gets distracted*. Thanks for popping over :D

  • Fivegoblogging

    A little shiver has just made its way up my spine. I could so easily have written this. I am not nearly as disciplined as you though. 8pm curfew? I have a little sneak about after 8 and end up dragging myself away at 11! Addicted to blogs, twitter and the desire to write. x

  • liveotherwise

    8pm is usually when we’re eating, if I’m lucky I get to sneak back on for a little while after tea, then before I know it, it’s bedtime for Smallest and I usually fall asleep with her. So my curfew is set by a toddler just now. I’ve started trying to get up earlier to grab some time to myself in a morning, but the problem is getting my brain going at that time of day! 

  • Mari Sterling Wilbur

    Managing blog/writing/taking photos for my blog is certainly a challenge. Right now I’m trying to snap as many photos for my blog as I can before winter rain sets in. Then there’s garden clean-up and general yard chores now that Fall is hitting. Never mind housework. Somehow it all gets done. And I find I’m commenting on fewer blogs and concentrating on those I like best.  I hope to offer beginning photo classes this winter – I’d love it! Let’s see how that turns out :D

  • bod for tea

    Mmm… the 8 o’clock curfew? Not my idea. Instigated by OH. But he’s absolutely right, otherwise we’d probably hardly see each other! Big up to ma fellow writing addict! *tries to be rad and fails miserably*

  • bod for tea

    I tend to eat with the toddler at around 5pm and try not to eat again when OH comes home. How do you find falling asleep with the Smallest? Is she in your bed or you in hers? I’m more of a morning person since DD was born but my brain still isn’t in gear until I’ve got some coffee inside me. I’ve started doing morning pages again to get my brain going too…

  • bod for tea

    Focus is the key I think Mari. Photo classes – wheeee! Good for you, you’ll be brilliant at it :D

  • Mari Sterling Wilbur

    Thank you. I’ve taken two on-line classes to get a feel for what’s offered. I’m going to have people in my classes use new photos they take just for the class or older photos that fit the theme of the class. We are all so busy meeting our own schedules which can make a class daunting and puts too much pressure on us. 

  • Midlie Singlemum

    Ilove the way Mari says: somehow it all gets done. Somehow it’s not all getting done in my house. The 8pm curfew wouldn’t work for me as I try to be offline until DD goes to bed between 7.30 and 8pm. Whatever, I am doing I feel guilty that I’m not doing something else that also needs doing… big changes are called for around here. 

  • liveotherwise

    I did morning pages for a while, but I found it really difficult to carve out that time first thing. 

    Beds are side by side – she has a bedside cot. As long as it’s after 10.30 I don’t mind falling asleep, before that I end up waking up in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep. I’m fortunate that none of my children are morning ppl! 

  • bod for tea

    Morning pages are not easy, to be sure, but I like the discipline of them and sometimes a nugget emerges that I can work on in a blog post.

    And yes, he he, you’re lucky none of them are morning ppl :D

  • bod for tea

    Oooo it will be an online class? 

  • bod for tea

    I know, somehow it’s not all getting done here either *sigh*, but Mari’s brood has flown the nest so let’s not be too hard on ourselves :D

    The 8pm curfew? Yeah, about that, it’s not my idea…

  • sarahdazjc

    I feel exsactly the same, I spend too much time on my laptop, wish I could claim I was producing pearls of wisdom or making beautiful photos and amazingly intresting reads, but no I sit looking at facebook, reading other blogs staring longingly at others stunning photography, and the hours dissapear so quick with my mind only half on the actual task that I wanted to complete before I opened my laptop, only half able to concentrate with shouts of ‘mummmmmm’ every 5 minutes is off putting so I hardly ever get my posts finished…. pretty simular with everything else none blog related best intentions and all that at the start… only half focused on any task by the end. ah well one day it will click into place won’t it?

  • bod for tea

    *Sigh* I hope so my dear, I hope so. In the meantime let’s have a sherry and try not to beat ourselves up about it too much eh? :D

  • Ella @ Notes from Home

    I’m rather like you, spending more time reading, tweeting and so on than actually showing up for blog work. That’s where I’m going to make my change to get a better balance, right after I’ve just checked what’s going on on Twitter tonight….

  • bod for tea

    He he, you and me both my dear, you and me both :D

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